Musings: Three types of women men want

A few Saturdays ago, I uploaded one of my musings column on my WhatsApp status, it was titled ‘three types of men women want’, when I say to you, the men came out!! This is what they mean when they say, a yasso nice! My clean, well-educated males who can read showed up in my messages telling me they were loving the article and making some suggestions for me to even put a voice to it, I’m still considering that aspect.

Now, we are here with this topic because I carried out a poll with the males who commented, asking them for what they look for in us as females. Before the ladies start jumping off cliffs to start complaining, it is what they want, remember we have choices, if it isn’t for you, just don’t pick it up when you go shopping for the male species.

This article will be written a little differently as I want to incorporate suggestions made from 3 of the males, I’ll however be giving them pseudo names as I’m not sure if their partners or friends of partners will be reading.

Scorpio came out strong but very intentional and direct with the qualities he’s looking for in his woman, she needs to be independent, trustworthy and affectionate. That’s all that’s needed by this gentleman.

Virgo was a little more detailed and specific with his actions as he says a man has needs that must be met by his partner. The three qualities he’s looking for in a woman is: a nurturer, a freak and a supportive partner.

Libra was one of the first to respond, he gave a full definition of each of what I’ll be highlighting, his woman needs to be: militant, nurturing and takes directives well.

Let's get into it: Three Types of Women Men Want

A few weeks ago, I uploaded one of my musings column to my WhatsApp status. It was titled “Three Types of Men Women Want.” When I tell you the men came out, I mean they came out! This is what they mean when they say, a yasso nice! My clean, well-educated males who can read showed up in my messages, praising the article and even suggesting that I put a voice to it. I’m still considering that part.

Now, we’re here with this topic because, after the flood of male feedback, I decided to conduct a little poll. I asked the guys what they look for in women, and before the ladies start rolling their eyes or diving into complaints, let me remind you—this is what they want. If it doesn’t resonate with you, no need to pick it up when you go shopping in the world of men.

This article is a little different because I’m incorporating responses from three of the men who gave thoughtful, detailed answers. I’ll give them pseudo-names, though, just in case their partners (or friends of partners) happen to read this.

Scorpio: The Direct Approach

Scorpio came out strong but intentional with his answers. This is a man who knows exactly what he wants, no fluff, no drama. The three qualities he’s looking for in a woman are simple but non-negotiable: independence, trustworthiness, and affection.

For him, independence is key because he wants a partner who is confident in her own life—someone who doesn’t rely on him for everything but chooses to be with him.

Trustworthiness is a foundation in all relationships, but for Scorpio, it’s about more than just honesty—it’s about reliability. He needs to know she’s got his back no matter what. Lastly, affection is a must. He craves warmth and closeness, someone who shows her love not just with words, but with actions, too.

In short, Scorpio is the kind of guy who values a self-assured woman who’s got her own thing going on, but who also makes him feel loved and secure.

Virgo: The Man of Many Needs

Virgo was a bit more detailed with his response, his needs are a mix of different energies. He’s looking for a woman who is a nurturer, a freak, and a supportive partner.

Virgo knows that life comes with its ups and downs, and a nurturer helps balance things out. He wants a woman who is caring and compassionate, someone who can be there emotionally and maybe even whip up a bowl of soup when he’s under the weather. But don’t be fooled—this man wants passion, too. Being a freak, in his words, means a partner who’s willing to explore and keep the fire burning in the bedroom. Finally, support is crucial. For Virgo, a relationship is about growth, both individually and together. He needs someone who can cheer him on, stand beside him in hard times, and build with him.

Virgo is a man who doesn’t just want a lover—he wants a partner in every sense of the word: emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Libra: The Structured Partner

Libra was one of the first to respond, and he came prepared with a full breakdown of the qualities he values in a woman. According to him, his ideal woman is militant, nurturing, and takes directives well.

Now, before the ladies raise an eyebrow at “militant,” let’s break it down. Libra loves a woman who is disciplined, focused, and able to keep things in order. This doesn’t mean she’s rigid, but rather that she’s strong-willed and determined—someone who knows what she wants and have and not opened to everyone having full access to her. At the same time, nurturing is important to him because, like Gemini, Libra values emotional depth and care. He wants a partner who knows when to switch gears from strong to soft, balancing out life’s demands with tenderness.

As for taking directives well, this is where Libra's leadership side comes out. He values a woman who can trust his judgment and follow his lead when necessary. It’s about partnership and balance for him—he’s not looking for submission, but for someone who respects his role as a leader and provider in the relationship.

Wrapping It Up

There you have it—three types of women, according to the men in my poll. From the direct and practical needs of Scorpio to the layered desires of Virgo and the structured approach of Libra, these men have made it clear what they value in their partners.

Ladies, take from this what resonates with you. Whether you see yourself in these descriptions or not, remember that relationships are all about balance and finding the right fit. If it’s not for you, simply move on—but if it strikes a chord, maybe there’s something to think about.

Because at the end of the day, what we all really want, men and women alike, is to be seen, appreciated, and loved for who we are.

Musings,

Nekeshia